Letting go

Just saw this quote on Sze Yun's blog:

There are things we don't want to happen but we have to accept, things we don't want to know but we have to learn and people we can't live without but we have to let go.

I believe for most of us, the last bit of that quote tingles our senses a bit. Many of us find people we can't live without, the people whom we share our love, life and smiles with. But every now and then, we lose these people; whether through choice of separation or death. To those of you who have gone through or are going through this painful process of losing someone, there's always a time for mourning but not for too long. Keep your chin up. You're a lot better than you give yourself credit for.

It pains me to see some of my friends who refuse to help themselves. They say they do and they try, but if they really did, then they wouldn't be stuck in this lingo and vicious cycle for so long. I say, try harder. There's only so much a friend can help you with, the rest is really up to you. And if you put your mind to it, anything is possible.

I have once lost someone I couldn't live without. I told myself that it's impossible to get through this and that I'll never love again - until one day, a friend knocked some sense into me. Today, I have learnt to let go and believe me, it was much easier than I thought. That stupid phrase, "it's always easier said than done" is really just a demotivator. Get rid of that mindset, people. The sooner, the better.

When one door closes, another opens. I've grabbed my opportunity with the other door. And I'm happiest right now. I'll never look back in anger or frustration because I now have more than I ever wanted. If you're never gonna let go, you'll never be able to reach for greater and better things. You'll miss out on all the chances for you to be happier because you're holding onto your past which you think is the best thing, but it will never really be enough to fill that hole left in your heart.

You can't reach for something that's in front of you if you're still tied to something that's behind you.

This post goes out to all of you who have loved and lost. Food for thought.